Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Sincerely 'Fro Me to You - A letter to my 14 year old self

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Dear 14 year old self,
First, your make up is fabulous, the black lip liner combined with the black roots really completes the look. And isn't that your mother's shirt?
But in all seriousness, allow me to give you some pearls of wisdom, 12 years later. A sort of "if I knew then what I know now" fantasy.
I promise that you are smart and will learn to be good at things, including learning. Don't be too rough on your teachers, they really do know what they're talking about. The awkward phase you think no one understands? It's happening to all of your friends, too. The sadness you feel deep in your gut is depression; tell someone and see a shrink now while you're still covered by government health insurance. Enjoy these acne-free years of your youth because just when you get cocky about having wonderful skin, you go and get knocked up and your skin never does go back to normal. And speaking of skin, you're gorgeous, dahling. Skip the pancake foundation, mmkay?
I'm going to tell you something that you really need to listen to because your failure to do so will lead to a lot of years struggling in this department. Those people you think are your friends? I swear to God they're not. They spend hours hacking into your aol account and spreading horrible rumors and excluding you on purpose. You will cry so, so many tears over these girls and they're not worth it. It will take you a long time to get over them and even 12 years later, your experience with them will impact your ability to make female friends. Besides, you're prettier than them and when you're all in your mid 20's, you're the only one not living with parents.
About boys. While I understand it's fun to write Mrs. Block on every single surface you come across, that boy is not the man of your dreams. In fact, in 2 years, he will break into your house while you're on vacation and steal everything you and your family owns. And PS - he turns out to be a drug dealer. The man of your dreams is going to come to you in the funniest way and you won't even have to wait that long for him. He's going to be unconventional and old but you're going to love him the second you meet him.
Be nicer to Mom. She tries her best with what she has and when you're an adult and have children of your own, you're going to realize how much she loves you. And don't worry - you don't turn out anything like her, I swear. Say thank you to Tony because you're going to say goodbye to him one Thanksgiving and then he's going to die and you're never, ever going to forgive yourself. Don't get so annoyed by Grandpa, in a few years, you're going to be so charmed by his quirks. You're going to get a sister who loves you unconditionally and is so cool.
One last piece of advice I want you to really pay attention to is this: stop growing up. You get to be a grown up eventually and really soon so live in the moment and just be 14.
Oh yeah - and take more pictures because in 12 more years, you're going to write a blog where you post old pictures of yourself and you're not going to have nearly enough photos to go with all the stories.
With love and concern,
Yourself 12 years later

12 comments:

The Apron Queen said...

Wonderful! Oh, if only we could have actually read these letters to ourselves at 14. :)

My Fro post this week is about being crowned The Toobing Queen. Laughs guaranteed. http://anapronaday.blogspot.com/2008/07/toobing-on-lake-in-texas.html

Tammy said...

Yes, we just knew we were SO very smart at 14. If we had only known our mom's were right all along!

Heather said...

I've heard of people writing letters written to their 17 year-old self, but never at 14. I, like you, would have benefited more from a letter at 14 than at 17, when it was already too late. I'm glad things appear to have worked out for you.

Happy Mommy said...

Oh my you made me cry! I wish we really could write a letter to ourself! I would have saved myself a whole lot of heart ache!

We are THAT Family said...

Wouldn't it be awesome to be able to do that? Like in the movie 13 going on 30? Reminded me of that. I love your picture too!

D... said...

Hindsight is 20/20, huh? It would be pretty amazing to send those kinds of letters to ourselves. And, if only our daughters would listen to us!

My Sincerely 'Fro Me to You can be found here.

Takin' time to smell the flowers! said...

If only we could really do this. I loved reading it. I loved the part where you wrote that you're going to meet the man of your dreams and he's OLD. My husband is also OLDer than I, eight years older. Great blog.

Muthering Heights said...

Don't you wish you could really send it?

Sophia (Adventures of Brown) said...

Thanks to everyone for your kind and supportive words!! They mean so much to me.

Muthering heights: I love your question so much that I'm holding the answer for my 100th post. Only 4 more posts to go!! For my 100th post, I'm going to answer random questions from my reader(s) so thank you for adding to that list! Come back to see the answer next week!

Carianne said...

I love this blog!! It's my favorite in a while. (nothing will top the one about me!) I may copy you, just to let you know. I have been having some writers block. Miss you! Oh, and you turned out just fine in case you were wondering. Your thirty something self told me!

Valarie said...

This was absolutely awesome!!! I think I need to right a letter to my old self. It might be interesting. :)

Omee said...

You are truly an old soul... you are wiser beyond your years....

Sometimes I can't beleive you are your age... I am glad yo wrote this.. gives me some more insight on you...

And don't worry about those stupid "so called" friends when you were 12... i felt that way a few months ago... I still can't believe i go through crap like that